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Rebecca-Monique, PCC | Coach | Coach Supervisor
Coaching is one of the most undervalued and under-utilised abilities, yet one of the most impactful meta skills that we can hone and seek not just in our career but in our personal life.
I often reflect on my personal journey and think…
How would I have coached the 8-year-old me who’d just lost her adopted mother to a heart attack?
How would I have coached the adolescent me through the 7 years of psychological and physical abuse she endured at the hands of someone who was supposed to be her ‘carer’?
How would I have coached the 17-year-old me: homeless, placed in a hostel, clinically diagnosed with depression, in the middle of studying for her A-levels?
How would I have coached myself weeks after giving birth to my son: experiencing postnatal depression, looking down at him in my arms, riddled with guilt as to why I was unable to feel for my own flesh and blood?
How would I have coached the newly-divorced me weeping on her kitchen floor; grazed knees from falling so hard from the agony of the heartbreak?
How would I have coached myself, in my late twenties just moments before speaking to my birth mother for the very first time?
When my son turned 8, over dinner he asked me: “Mummy: Your mummy died when you were 8; does that mean I’m going to lose you soon?”. My heart bled.
How did I coach myself through that conversation? Gah!
Turns out I coached myself through surviving and thriving 100% of those traumatic days.
If you place one hand on your chest and feel your heart beating, you’ll come to realise that every single cell in your body is rooting for you.
You already have everything within you to thrive. Give yourself time to think, time to reflect, time to introspect. Honour that time and the answers will become clear.
The world is waiting for you to truly step into your greatness, and show up unapologetically as the authentic you.
My pain has become my purpose. Coaching is my calling.
WHO - BACKGROUND
Hallo there! I’m Rebecca-Monique (she/her): a somatic and transformational coach specialising in grief and trauma. I’m also a coach supervisor. My first name is hyphenated, and yes, it's a bit of a mouthful, but “Names are important!”, a coach of mine once insisted. Agreed, though I’m not precious about it, so I won't be offended if you don't say the whole thing; Rebecca will do just fine BUT if you do manage to consistently call me Rebecca-Monique, you’ll get extra brownie points!
While we’re on the topic of names, in case you’re wondering (and you very well might not have been!), the name of my website is ‘Rebecca-Monique’ without the vowels. If we get a chance to connect – and I sure hope we do – I can tell you more about what it symbolises.
I'm glad you’ve stopped by to check out who I am and explore the value and support I can add to your life. I'm a professionally trained coach, International Coaching Federation (ICF) accredited, and a member of the National Council of Psychotherapists, so I can assure you you’re in good hands. I’m also a coach supervisor.
Before becoming a coach, I acquired over ten years of PeopleOps experience – in stand-alone roles and leading small teams in VC-backed tech start-ups – where I built out and scaled People functions from scratch to support plans for hyper growth.
During my career as a People leader I was responsible for collaboratively designing, implementing and iterating holistic people-first processes, frameworks, guides and experiences (EX – Employee Experience) spanning the entire employee lifecycle including hiring, onboarding, and the growth & development of individuals and teams.
It was a wonderful (and challenging! Wonderfully challenging?!) journey, but one day it dawned on me why I was progressively feeling drained. In between strategising, implementing scalable processes, rolling out initiatives, managing a team, winning ‘best place to work’ awards etc. I discovered – through weeks of introspection – that my role left me a few too many steps removed from fulfilling my purpose of directly enabling individuals to actualise their full, authentic potential – oftentimes, this journey begins with working through a version of ourselves that is no longer serves our greatest good; cue unaddressed trauma and grief.
Coaching was a skill I had acquired and honed over the years, and I knew – first-hand – the immeasurable positive impact it could have not just on an individual’s engagement and performance, but also how they intrinsically felt about themselves, work and life.
So, I took the very vulnerable, yet courageous step to do coaching full-time. And here we are. What a beautiful, honourable place to be!
WHAT I DO
I help people normalise and navigate their trauma and grief so they can thrive with confidence, self-love and authenticity.
I am me, and you are you; respectively, that is our superpower….In order to truly coach, I must hold individuals with ‘unconditional positive regard’, listen to understand, and ask generative questions to unlock new thinking.
There’s a saying that if you want to explore anything in life, one must first look to the origin. I’m curious about people’s values, needs, and motivations and wants; the stuff at the core, but sometimes beneath the surface. I provide that psychologically safe space for clients to bring their authentic selves and together we can explore a plethora of possibilities.
It’s my hope that after every interaction, they develop a greater sense of mobility to tackle their personal and professional challenges head on, and see those challenges not as problems, but as puzzles.
In my spare time, I dabble in a bit of amateur photography and have a new-found enthusiasm for cinematography. Click here to view my other website and check out some of my earlier work. Go on.
WHERE
London, UK. No place I'd rather be.